Maintain Healthy Relationships

Family Tree & Links

Communication builds a strong picture, mediation builds steps for reconciliation.

On occasions, I found that when clients were referring to their family and often extended family members and where issues were strained and complex that it was useful for my clients to relate to a family tree and to draw in the links or connections.

This enabled me to gather a bigger picture and have a better understanding of the family dynamics that may have existed and this helped with the coaching & mentoring sessions.

I also found this system very useful when working in adolescent units. Some young people found it a positive way to explain and relate to their family members and in turn this assisted staff in understanding the family links and in supporting the young person with any issues that perhaps existed.

A family tree can be compiled in many ways or with  different systems, this depends on you.  

Below is one method of filling in the family tree, however some have larger families and may use a different system.  

Consider the relationships, the various levels of communication and support and draw in the lines.

 

  • _____________________________    =     strong  link
  • _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _     =     weak  link
  • ++++++++++++++++++++    =     stressful  link

This system can be used with adding in external agencies/people you wish.

  • _____________________________    =     strong  link
  • _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _     =     weak  link
  • ++++++++++++++++++++    =     stressful  link

 If problems exist or perhaps escalating then do something about it. Seek the help you need now.  Consider mediation as a means of neutral support to untangle and help solve issues.

Building trust, having positive relationships with our work colleagues, friends and family are an integral part of life and makes for a happier environment. 

Consider setting goals that you can implement to overcome the stressful links. 

Mediation bring people back into the  present moment.

Family coaching, mediation available for you.

 

Wise saying/quote!

“I could agree with you, but then we’d both be wrong.”