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5 Skills of Resilience

Building Resilience You Need


>Nurture a positive view of yourself

>Look at the headings and consider things that are strong, weak or stressful. Write down, name what you consider strong/weak/stressful and look at the areas that could be improved upon? Actions you can take, the help you need.

1. Self Awareness

Self awareness is the ability to focus on yourself and how your actions, thoughts or emotions do or don’t align with your internal standards.

The 5 elements of self awareness: 

Self concept, is your perception of you. Our thoughts are tied to our emotions, so when we try to become more aware of our emotions, we must first understand our thoughts and thought processes.

*Self Concept *Thoughts *Feelings *Body *Emotions

2. Types of Self Care

*Physical *Social *Mental *Spiritual *Emotional 

When it comes to physical self care, ask yourself the following questions to assess whether there might be some areas you need to improve:

*Are you getting enough sleep? *Is your diet fuelling your body well? *Are you taking charge of your health? *Are you getting enough exercise?

It is okay to put yourself first. Self care is an important part of managing your stress and can help you stay happy and healthy.

Self care is what you do to care for your mind, body and spirit. Practicing self care can help anyone feel mentally and emotionally strong when dealing with life’s many ups and downs.

Common self care techniques include mindfulness and meditation, but there are many ways to care for yourself. It’s important to explore your options and find activities that are enjoyable or meaningful to you.

3. Relationships

Resilience relationships are able to handle the weight of conflict. They are stretchy like a rubber band, not fragile like eggshells. Practices of resilient relationships include showing up, seeing and being seen, sharing power, disagreeing well and taking  breaks.

Healthy disagreements is especially important for relationships to be strong.

Friendships of pleasure exist between you and those whose company you enjoy.

Friendships of the good, are based on mutual respect and admiration.

Friendships have a huge impact on your mental health and happiness. Good friends relieve stress, provide comfort and joy and prevent loneliness and isolation. Developing close friendships can also have a powerful impact on your physical health.

4. Purpose

Your life purpose consists of the motivating aims of your life. The reasons you get up in the morning. Purpose can guide life decisions, influence behaviour, shape goals, offer a sense of direction and create meaning. For some people, purpose is connected to vocation, meaningful, satisfying work, Things to do.

Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a type of meditation in which you focus on being intensely aware of what you are sensing and feeling in the moment, without interpretation or judgement. Practicing mindfulness involves breathing methods, guided imagery and other practices to relax the body and mind and help reduce stress.

A meditation exercise: focus on an aspect of your breathing, such as the sensations of air flowing into your nostrils and out of your mouth, or your belly rising and falling as you inhale and exhale.

Life Coaching: will help people navigate the complexities and uncertainties of life.

If you require, we can look at a self/need assessment, tailored for your personal development.

 

Email: lawrie.7@outlook.com  

Family Connections

Maintain Healthy Relationships

Family Tree & Links

Communication builds a strong picture, mediation builds steps for reconciliation.

On occasions, I found that when clients were referring to their family and often extended family members and where issues were strained and complex that it was useful for my clients to relate to a family tree and to draw in the links or connections.

This enabled me to gather a bigger picture and have a better understanding of the family dynamics that may have existed and this helped with the coaching & mentoring sessions.

I also found this system very useful when working in adolescent units. Some young people found it a positive way to explain and relate to their family members and in turn this assisted staff in understanding the family links and in supporting the young person with any issues that perhaps existed.

A family tree can be compiled in many ways or with  different systems, this depends on you.  

Below is one method of filling in the family tree, however some have larger families and may use a different system.  

Consider the relationships, the various levels of communication and support and draw in the lines.

 

  • _____________________________    =     strong  link
  • _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _     =     weak  link
  • ++++++++++++++++++++    =     stressful  link

This system can be used with adding in external agencies/people you wish.

  • _____________________________    =     strong  link
  • _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _  _     =     weak  link
  • ++++++++++++++++++++    =     stressful  link

 If problems exist or perhaps escalating then do something about it. Seek the help you need now.  Consider mediation as a means of neutral support to untangle and help solve issues.

Building trust, having positive relationships with our work colleagues, friends and family are an integral part of life and makes for a happier environment. 

Consider setting goals that you can implement to overcome the stressful links. 

Mediation bring people back into the  present moment.

Family coaching, mediation available for you.

 

Wise saying/quote!

“I could agree with you, but then we’d both be wrong.”

                                                     

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